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Society has spent decades telling men to evolve to be more vulnerable, more emotionally available, more in touch with their feelings. But what happens when men show up with the very qualities they were told women wanted? They’re often met with disrespect, entitlement, and unrealistic expectations. Not all women, of course. But the modern dating landscape is shifting in a way that many men feel devalued, unheard, and only as good as their ability to provide.
The Double Standards Are Loud
Men are expected to bring stability, ambition, leadership, and emotional intelligence to the table. Yet, when they express their own needs, struggles, or standards, they’re often met with shaming, gaslighting, or accusations of toxicity.
A woman wants a man who is strong, but if he’s too dominant, he’s "controlling."
A man is told to be emotionally open, but when he expresses vulnerability, he’s seen as "weak."
A woman can have high expectations for a partner, but if a man sets his own standards, he’s labeled misogynistic.
The playing field is not equal, and men are noticing.
Conditional Love: What Can You Do for Me?
Too many modern women have adopted a transactional mindset when it comes to relationships.
Men are no longer valued for their character, values, or emotional depth instead, it’s status, money, and what he can provide that often determine his worth.
He needs to be 6 feet tall, make six figures, and take me on luxury trips.
If he can’t handle a strong woman, he’s insecure.
A man should always pay if he’s broke, why is he even dating?
Meanwhile, men are asking: "What do I get in return?"
Loyalty? Respect? Feminine energy? Many men are tired of being seen as walking wallets.
Men Are Opting Out
It’s no secret that more men are choosing to stay single, delay relationships, or completely step away from the dating scene. The rise of passport bros, MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), and the Red Pill movement is a direct response to modern dating culture.
Men are realising:
They don’t need to prove their worth to women who bring nothing to the table but expectations.
They can find peace and happiness without being in a relationship that drains them.
There are women outside Western culture who still value traditional masculinity and respect men. This isn’t bitterness. This is self-preservation.
The Truth Women Don’t Want to Hear
The reality is, modern women have been lied to as much as men have.
They’ve been told they can have it all a career, independence, and the perfect man who will worship them without asking for anything in return. The problem? That man doesn’t exist.
A relationship is about giving and receiving yet too many modern women want to receive without giving.
They want a provider but don’t want to nurture.
They want a man who leads but refuse to follow.
They want chivalry but reject traditional gender roles.
And now, they’re shocked that good men are walking away.
What’s the Solution?
Men don’t want war with women. They want partnership, respect, and love.
The solution is simple: Balance.
Women need to understand that femininity is not weakness it’s a strength that complements masculinity.
Men need to stop chasing approval from women who don’t value them.
Both sides need to meet in the middle instead of fighting a battle that nobody wins.
At the end of the day, men deserve respect, love, and appreciation just as much as women do. The sooner we recognise that, the better relationships will be for everyone.
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